Alan Watts: The Way of Zen

When we attempt to exercise power or control over someone else, we cannot avoid giving that person the very same power or control over us.

We feel that our actions are voluntary when they follow a decision and involuntary when they happen without decision. But if a decision itself were voluntary every decision would have to be preceded by a decision to decide - An infinite regression which fortunately does not occur. Oddly enough, if we had to decide to decide, we would not be free to decide.